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Rhonda Gay Elkins

Rhonda Gay Elkins
  • July 16, 1960 - August 29, 2014
  • Clarkton, North Carolina

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I first found you on Wordpress Rhonda. Your family's story and grief resonated with me so much. I think of you often, since you went ahead. I send love to your family when I think of you.

Posted by: Sandra Moran - Hervey Bay Australia   Aug 28, 2021

I often think of Rhonda and her loved ones left behind. I hope that you have all been wrapped up in love and kindness are so many devastating losses. I followed Rhonda's blog on Wordpress and the loss of Rhonda, was a confronting thing for myself, as I too lost a child to suicide.
Sending you all love on this day of remembrance.

Posted by: Sandra Moran - Queensland Australia - Acquaintance   Aug 29, 2019

It has now been a year since we lost my niece, Rhonda Gay Sellers Elkins, to a serious condition from which she could not overcome. We should never stop talking about this condition and trying to find a cure for it. There are so many types of mental illness. Let us strive to bring it out in the open even more than we are doing it now. If we cannot find a cure for it right now, let us find

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Posted by: Peggy Montalbano - Raleigh, NC - Family   Aug 28, 2016

I am in absolute shock right now! I am in such shock! I just went to look at Rhonda's blog which I've done in the last few months now and then wondering why she hasn't written! So today I just started searching to see if she had started the new one where she was going to make a place for everyone who lost someone to suicide only to find out this very sad devastating news!
As I've been trying to pull

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Posted by: Dee - NV   Dec 19, 2014

To Rhonda's family, I want to let you know that you are still in many thoughts and prayers. I did not know Kaitlyn, but I was in her medical school, and I was strongly impacted by her death and Rhonda's subsequent book and blog entries. Their lives, though tragically short, will have longer lasting effects than they could have imagined on this world. Their stories have influenced so many, including myself, in such meaningful ways, and have had a chain

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Posted by: Samantha    Oct 10, 2014

Rhonda was a follower of my blog, and through that we corresponded a few times, and via email. Like everyone, I am deeply shocked and saddened that she has now followed Kaitlyn. All I can hope, is that she is now at peace, no longer tormented by the overwhelming grief that she simply could not bear.

To Allyn and Stephanie, our thoughts and prayers are with you.

(from Uncle Spikes Adventures)

P.S. This is the link to our post honouring Rhonda.

Posted by: Uncle Spike - Turkey - Blogger friend   Sep 23, 2014

Very sad.

Posted by: Eric - Oklahoma City, OK - Online Forum Member   Sep 23, 2014

Allyn and families, I am truely shocked. Just read about Rhonda in the paper. Words cannot express the tragedy you and the families have endured. I loved her also, so sorry. But she is with God, Jesus and her precious angel in heaven. I pray for you and the families. It I know is not an easy time. When my father died, one thing I held close to was Foot prints in the sand poem. Phyllis Williams gave me a

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Posted by: Debbie Hinson High - Whiteville, NC - family   Sep 08, 2014

Sorry it has taken me so long to post this, the sadness overwhelms me still to this day..19 months, 85 weeks, I lost my son to suicide. Those first months are such a blur, I don't remember how I came upon Rhonda's website, but as I read her words they so closely related to my thoughts and feelings as well. Rhonda put it so much more eleoquently than I could have. It became the place I visited each day. I

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Posted by: Michelle elkin - Cortland, OH   Sep 08, 2014

Thank you for the gifts you left for other families who struggle with this terrible tragedy. I purchased your book after losing my daughter and it taught me so much. I was so grateful for it. I'm keeping your family in my prayers.

Posted by: Lori    Sep 07, 2014

Oh how I miss you, I miss your sweet voice, my baby sister, love you so much, but I will see you again.

Posted by: Sherry - Whiteville, NC - your loving sister   Sep 05, 2014

Dear Dagny, Forever, ever in my heart. Now hand in hand with your gorgeous baby-please tell my Jo Holly I love her. How we will miss you. I am sorry for all the family and friends who loved you so, yet I still feel the pull some days as well. Forever, Jane

Posted by: Jane Funches- "Jo Holly's Mama" - Central, SC - The Alliance Of Hope-co-survivor   Sep 03, 2014

I am just heartbroken and sadden of the loss of Rhonda. I met her in the "blogging" world after I started writing about my journey in grief. She was the first person to reach out to me. Her words of comfort have helped me so much. I will truly miss this friend I have never met but has become such a huge part of my life.

Posted by: Belinda Schell - Monticello, GA - Friend   Sep 02, 2014

Allyn, & family, My heart is broken for you and your family, I will keep you all in my prayers and pray that God will give you all strength and understanding

Posted by: Niki Dennis - Elizabethtown, NC - Friend   Sep 02, 2014

We'll always remember Rhonda as a happy, fun-loving, enthusiastic person who got so excited over the idea of camping in their RV, motorcycling, and generally enjoying life with her wonderful husband, Allyn and two terrific daughters, Stephanie and Kaitlyn. We pray that she has finally found the Peace she so desperately sought following the agonizing and tragic loss of her beloved Kaitlyn.
To our friend, Allyn, his daughter, Stephanie and her husband Steve, and all of both Rhonda's and Allyn's families,

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Posted by: Robert and Donna - Rhinebeck, NY - friends   Sep 01, 2014

I am very sorry for your family's loss of Rhonda and Kaitlyn. May they both rest in peace.

Posted by: Kathleen Taylor Hamlett - Kemah, TX - i am a member of the SOLOS group   Sep 01, 2014

My deepest sympathy to Rhonda's loved ones. I met Rhonda online via her blog. My youngest child died a couple of months after Kaitlyn. Rhonda and I exchanged emails and there are no adequate words to describe how sad I am to learn of her passing.

Posted by: Dee Incollingo - PA - Friend   Sep 01, 2014

I am somewhat at a loss for words. My heart aches and I am so sorry for your loss. Rhonda is loved and will be missed by so many. She helped me so much as we traveled through our journey of grief together along with many other mothers after I lost my son to suicide 2/21/12. I pray for comfort and strength for your family at this time of great sadness. Your family has been through so much heartache. God bless. Rest peacefully in paradise, Rhonda. We carry you with us in our hearts. Your friend, Randi

Posted by: Randi Nelson - Mesquite, NV - A friend and grieving mother.   Sep 01, 2014

My deepest condolences on the loss of Rhonda.... a beautiful soul who touched many hearts. May God give you the strength to endure this devastating loss.

Posted by: Judy Lehman - Germantown, WI - friend   Sep 01, 2014

With deepest sadness and sympathy to Rhonda's family. She was a blessing to so manyRest in Peace Rhonda. The Angels are certainly singing your praises.

Posted by: Karen L Brown - Auburn, CA   Sep 01, 2014

I don't think that Rhonda had any idea how many lives she touched. She was frequently so open, talking about many things that are usually kept silent. She used her voice, and she made a difference. She was kind, warm and caring. Her LOVE just poured out in her words...especially for her family. I don't know what else to say except that she was awesome, and that I will miss her very much.

My heart goes out to all of us

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Posted by: Christine Bastone - Lake Wales, FL - Friend   Sep 01, 2014

There are no words to describe Rhonda's passing into eternal life. I know she is now at peace. She was such a wonderful person. I am sure God came down and led her home.

Posted by: Peggy Montalbano - Raleigh, NC - great niece   Sep 01, 2014

My heart was broken when I heard about this ! I to have lost someone, and it has taken away my joy and filled my heart with pain. My prayers go out to Allen and her family may God comfort you as he has me.

Posted by: SondraAutry - Whiteville, NC - Friend   Sep 01, 2014

Rhonda touched the hearts & minds of so many after the devastating loss of Kaitlyn. I knew Rhonda through a global online community of those bereaved by suicide. Her eloquent & heartfelt writings were inspirational. I hope that her husband and daughter can feel the arms of the community Rhonda touched so deeply wrapped around them, holding them up. Rest peacefully in the arms of the angels Rhonda xxxx

Posted by: Jacqueline Williams - UK - Friend   Sep 01, 2014

Rhonda and I worked together at the hospital in Whiteville years ago. When she left to go to nursing school, we lost touch but had reconnected on Facebook. She will be missed by many because she was a very special lady.

Posted by: Deborah Dallas - Lake Waccamaw, NC - Friend   Sep 01, 2014

Rhonda my heart is broken for you and your family. Rest in peace sweet lady!

Posted by: Betty Hughes Clark - Nakina, NC - friend and former co-worker   Sep 01, 2014

My Heart goes out to Rhonda's Family. You have my deepest sympathies and Prayers. Sweet Beautiful Rhonda, I know your reunion with Kaitlin was Amazing and Beautiful. May God Bless you & your Family, Thank you for all the Love, Help and Support you gave to us all. God Bless & Fly High.

Posted by: Lori Norcross - Avon, MA - Friend   Aug 31, 2014

To Rhonda's family... my heart is broken for you. I met Rhonda in an online writers' community (KBoards) and did some editing for her on a short story she wrote about Kaitlyn. We only exchanged e-mails a few times, but it was so obvious that she was a sweet, loving person, someone I would have been glad to get to know better. I am so very sorry for your loss, and I wish you peace in the days ahead.

Posted by: Carol Davis - NY   Aug 31, 2014

Ally, Stephanie and the rest of Rhonda's family, I have no words that can take away your pain. My heart and love goes out to each and every one of you. Rhonda was a very loving, caring and special lady. She loved her family more than life itself. My prayers are that God give each of you the strength you need to get thru today and the days ahead of you. I don't think Rhonda ever realized how many lives

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Posted by: Trish Boswell - Clarkton, NC - Friend   Aug 31, 2014

My heart hurts for your family...May God give you peace and comfort beyond understanding...Rhonda touched many people and she changed many peoples minds about that mental illness is a disease...I am at a loss for words right now..I know the pain of suicide and all the ripples it causes....Please know that your mom's ripple is as tremendous as the wave of a tsunami....she will be missed by so many and cherished in their hearts forever...May God bless you.

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Posted by: Nancy Norris - Whiteville, NC - Friend   Aug 31, 2014

Sincere condolences on the loss of your beautiful Rhonda. I had begun following her journey through her blog. I too have lost a child - my youngest son. Rhonda was, and will remain, an inspiration to so many.
Much love and strength to you all.

Posted by: Sandra Moran - Queensland Australia   Aug 31, 2014

May you rest in peace, and be in no more pain.

Posted by: Lee Ann - FL   Aug 31, 2014

To the family, I just wanted to say how very very shocked and sorry I am to hear that Rhonda passed away. Her words about grief were very powerful and helpful to many including me. I will miss her. Your family, including Rhonda and Kaitlyn, will always be in my heart and prayers. I will be thinking about you during the funeral tomorrow.

Posted by: Katie - New York - Reader, Friend   Aug 31, 2014

Grant to her eternal rest Oh Lord. She was weary and You gave her rest.

Posted by: Virginia Phillips - Ennis, TX - fb, ffos, pfos, and sos   Aug 31, 2014

In the time since Kaitlyn's death, Rhonda became part of a worldwide community of grievers, and she spoke out in a clear and powerful voice for suicide prevention. Even those who never met Rhonda will remember and honor her for the battle that she fought, and because of Rhonda, Kaitlyn too will be remembered by those she never had the chance to know in this world. We know that her family was the center of Rhonda's life, that her family

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Posted by: Ellen Ross - Johnstown, NY - Friend   Aug 31, 2014

Sometimes the weight gets to be too much. she tried to be a beacon to so many, but sometimes the sheer gravity overtakes us. She is with her daughter now...whom she could not live on this Earth without. I pray for those left behind, for knowing how much she loved all of you...but her sadness was too great for any mere mortal to bear. God Bless you, and keep you in the Palm of His hand. She is happy now.

Posted by: Shelley Platt McDonough - Newcastle, CA - FB friend   Aug 31, 2014

Rhonda ~ a woman with a message ... I'm so sorry and sad, but Rhonda is a special person who brought attention to the cause. The road she walked, we walked together, was obe eith many many twists and turns. Its too easy to lose your was and or loose footing. I prayed that we would all make it through. I'm so sorry she had to go before us. My heart is broken. My prayers are with her family who

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Posted by: Kim Garcia - Tucson, AZ - fb friend   Aug 31, 2014

I worked with Rhonda at Comprehensive Home Health Care. She was always such a caring and efficient nurse. My thoughts and prayers will be with her family.

Posted by: Lorie Moore Floyd - Atkinson, NC   Aug 31, 2014

To the Sellers and Elkins family-Our hearts are very heavy as we share this great loss. May our loving God embrace and comfort you and the family with His peace during this painful time. May Rhonda and Kaitlyn be hand in hand once again. Sending prayers & love your way...
Don and Becky Sellers-Reeves Raleigh NC

Posted by: Becky Sellers-Reeves - Raleigh, NC - aunt   Aug 31, 2014

I am so sorry for your loss. Rhonda was a wonderful person, caring a lot of pain and sadness. I hope she's at peace now and reunited with "K" She will surely be missed in our forum. Love, light and peace to the family and Rhonda's spirit.

Posted by: Tracye - Kernersville, NC - Alliance of Hope Forum   Aug 31, 2014

Rhonda was an inspiration to many of us as she helped so many people who were going through the pain of losing a loved one. My thoughts and prayers are with her family and friends who are now going through this time of incredible loss. Rhonda will be missed...

Posted by: Lynda F. Turbeville - Sanford, NC - Facebook Friend   Aug 31, 2014

I have no words to ease the pain. God bless and keep you Stephanie and Allyn

Posted by: Toni Blackmon - Clarkton, NC - friend   Aug 30, 2014

i am sorry for your lost

Posted by: kim wooten - clarkton, NC - friend   Aug 30, 2014

Allyn and Stephanie, Words fail me at this time. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.. I never met Rhonda but knew her from talking to her through FB and know she touched many many lives. I am so very sorry. My heart hurts.. But I know nothing like yours. Know you will continue being on my mind and in my prayers throughout this long journey.

Posted by: Kellie Brown - Leesville, LA - friend   Aug 30, 2014

I am so sorry to hear of your great loss, especially following such a great loss just a little over a year ago. You have been in my thoughts and will continue to be as you navigate the months and years to come. May some sort of peace return to your lives, whenever it can, since the holes left there will always remain, and I'm sure leave you changed forever. Even though I never knew Kaitlyn, I enjoyed getting to

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Posted by: Amy Thompson-Barfield (Daughter of William and Rosemary Thompson - Holly Springs, NC - Family   Aug 30, 2014

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Rhonda provided me with a tremendous amount of support. May God keep you in the palm of His hand in the days ahead. Love, Kelly Castel

Posted by: Kelly Castel - New City, NY - friend   Aug 30, 2014

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Posted by: Lucia Woody - Tabor City, NC - friend   Aug 30, 2014

I am so disturbed to learn of Rhonda's passing. She will be with her daughter now. My condolences to her husband and daughter.

Posted by: Betty F Davis - White Lake, NC - Friend by Facebook   Aug 30, 2014

Rhonda and I met in the Parents of Suicide group and became FB friends too. We shared the journey of grief after losing a child to suicide. I had just ordered her book when I heard the news. My heart is broke for all who are touched by her untimely passing. Depression is a terrible, terrible disease.

Rhonda you will be so missed. <3>

Posted by: Barbara Swanston - Campbell River, BC Canada - Friend from PoS and FB   Aug 30, 2014

You are all in my prayers. There are no words that can heal your pain, unless they are said in prayer. God Bless you all and lift you up.

Posted by: Joyce Graham - Loris, SC - Friend of the family   Aug 30, 2014

My deepest sympathies and prayers go out to all of you.

Posted by: Jean Lansberry - Manchester, NY - Member of "Rise Above This".   Aug 30, 2014

I am so sorry. I met Rhonda on line not to long after she lost her daughter. My son turned 17 on 3/8/11 and took his life on 3/23/11. I felt a connection with her. She was such a giving person and did so much for others. I don't have the words to express my sorrow. Rhonda had a gift with words. My heart breaks for her family and loved ones.

Posted by: Ann Miquelon - Indian Hills, CO - friend   Aug 30, 2014

Much love and peace to all the Sellers and Elkins family. My heart is heavy for your loss. Love Kathy Tyree Bullock

Posted by: Kathy Tyree Bullock - Pawleys Island, SC - Long-time friend   Aug 30, 2014

I am so heartbroken for Rhonda, the family. I met Rhonda after she lost her precious Kaitlyn in 2013 online. I too lost my child to suicide. We connected under the most tragic of circumstances. We became friends. Her writing inspired me! My prayers to Rhonda, Kaitlyn, the whole family.

Posted by: Tammy Richardson - North Rose, NY - friend   Aug 30, 2014

I am so sorry for your loss.

Posted by: Marie Pugh - Caddo Mills, TX - Friend   Aug 30, 2014

Rest in peace. You will be dearly missed.

Posted by: Kay Nance Stout - Surfside Beach, SC - cousin in law   Aug 30, 2014

So sorry to hear of the loss of your loved one. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Posted by: Daphne Jefferson Burney Horne - Clarkton, NC - Friend   Aug 30, 2014

There are no words to say to comfort you, only prayers. My heart is also broken. I love Rhonda dearly and will never forget all the laughs and "pondering" we did. God bless your whole family and carry you through all this. God bless you

Posted by: Kelly Reeves - nakina, NC - close friend   Aug 30, 2014

Allyn, Stephanie, and family. My heart is breaking but I know nothing like yours. I just wish there was something I could do for you all. Please know you're in our thoughts and prayers. I loved Rhonda and communicated with her about every day on FB. Rest in Peace Rhonda!

Posted by: Janice M. Evans - Ash, NC - Friend and former co-worker   Aug 30, 2014